FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF

Another enemy to self confidence is bullying. Being a victim of bullying steals away whatever little self confidence a person might have had. That’s why it is so important to stop it. Fortunately, there is more help now than ever before. But it still isn’t simple because often the victim is a quiet, insecure person who might even think that it’s their fault that they are bullied.  


‘JAMES’-YOU FEEL SO HUMILIATED It’s because you are different and they’re jealous of you that they do it. But you want to handle it, you don’t want to be a tell tale and a back biter so you don’t tell anybody hoping it will solve itself but it gets worse. You feel so humiliated that you think of taking your own life. That’s when I knew I had to do something. I had heard that there was a bullying policy in other schools so I asked questions. I asked my teacher and I found out how important it is to tell and not to carry it on your own. But it takes time to believe that you are a good person who can make a positive difference. You have to work every day at telling yourself that you have just as much right as anyone to pursue your interests, to make mistakes and be respected.  

Just remember you are a beautiful person no matter what other people say and no matter what you have done or not done. Early in our lives we are shaped by our surroundings for good and bad. Little by little do we discover that we can choose for ourselves the most positive and the most encouraging attitude that will help us feel good about ourselves. Then we can help others to feel good about themselves too.

We’re on our way to a wonderful and happy life. Not without challenges and sometimes unfair treatment from people who may be jealous or small minded. But we will know that what they say and do to us reflects their problem rather than ours because we know we’re good people who can choose to do our bit to create a better world for all of us to live in.  

‘STEPHEN’-ON SELF-DESTRUCTIVE ATTITUDED At first, I thought this support group for ex-victims of bullying was for moaners and I went just to tell them so but I realised that these are courageous people who want to pick up the pieces and get on with their lives. Everyone here wants to build up their self confidence and we watch out for positive qualities in each other and encourage that. Then we point out self- destructive attitudes in what each other say and challenge each other to believe in ourselves. I think most people would benefit from this group even if they were never bullied.